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# Helping Others Resolve Conflicts

Help willing peers discuss safe everyday disagreements by listening to each side, checking their views and helping them consider a fair solution. Recognise when to pause or seek a trusted adult, especially for threats, harm or bullying.

Subject: Personal & Social Development · Area: Friendship & Cooperation · Ages 9 to 11
Page: https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/helping-others-resolve-conflicts-mt_AbnwmKD8oe

## Ready when they can

- For a safe disagreement, give each willing person a turn to explain before suggesting a plan
- Help each person explain their view and check that summaries match what they meant
- Suggest a safe, fair solution that both parties can freely accept, and seek a trusted adult for threats, harm or bullying

## Lesson: Being a Peacemaker Between Friends

You have practised working out your own disagreements and learned about the mediator role. You can offer to help with a small, safe disagreement if both people want help and you feel comfortable. A mediator helps people hear each other and consider a fair plan. You do not have to settle every disagreement your friends bring to you.

*(drawing: These steps are for a safe disagreement when both people want help. Anyone can ask to pause.)*

Let each person explain without interruptions. Ask what happened and what they want. Hear both views before judging an everyday disagreement. A louder voice or a closer friendship is not a reason to skip someone. Help them speak to each other: 'Tell each other what matters to you, one at a time.'

**Example.** A possible plan needs both people's free agreement and must be safe and follow rules. Jordan and Priya want the tire swing. Both ask Casey for help. After hearing and checking each view, Casey suggests five minutes each. They both freely agree, and the playground rules allow it.

*(drawing: A summary needs a check. The speaker can correct it before the group considers a plan.)*

Repeat each person's meaning in your own words and ask whether you understood. Let them correct you. Ask for possible plans. A fair plan takes each person's needs into account. It does not always mean equal turns. Check that both freely agree and that the plan is safe and follows the rules. Do not force an apology or agreement.

Pause if someone does not want to talk or you feel uncomfortable. Ask a trusted adult for help if the disagreement stays hard to manage. For threats, hurting or bullying, do not try to settle it yourself. Move to a safe place and tell a trusted adult. You do not need to hear both stories before getting help for danger.

**Recap.** For a safe disagreement, check both want help, hear each view and consider a fair plan without pressure. For threats, harm or bullying, move to safety and tell a trusted adult.

*Original lesson, questions and flashcards written for this dataset about voluntary peer mediation and seeking adult help.*

## Practice

8 questions on this page, each with its working shown.

## Needs first

- [Resolving Disagreements with Friends](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/resolving-disagreements-with-friends-mt_iWGnyUyN2j)
- [Roles in a Group](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/roles-in-a-group-mt_w4nSIDhIgC)

## Optional connections

- [Seeing Someone Else's Point of View](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/seeing-someone-elses-point-of-view-mt_9NQEiYLQA3)

## Opens up

- [Honest Conversations and Conflict Repair](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/honest-conversations-and-conflict-repair-mt_NCrbQe0LdB)