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# Self-Reflection in Relationships

Reflect on their own role and behaviour in relationships: recognising patterns in how they interact with others, understanding what they contribute to friendships, and identifying areas where they could improve as a friend or team member

Subject: Personal & Social Development · Area: Friendship & Cooperation · Ages 9 to 11
Page: https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/self-reflection-in-relationships-mt_z98J_Zg2L3

## Ready when they can

- Identify a pattern in their own social behaviour, such as always wanting to lead or avoiding confrontation
- Describe what they do well in relationships and one area they'd like to improve
- Set a specific social goal, such as 'I will ask others for their ideas before sharing mine'

## Lesson: Your Part in the Friendship

Self-reflection means looking at your own actions in a friendship or group. Think back to several occasions: what did you do, and how might it have affected others? A pattern is something you do repeatedly. It need not happen every time. Describe what you noticed without guessing why someone else acted that way. Reflecting on your part does not mean every problem is your fault.

*(drawing: Priya notices the same action across four projects. This is a pattern she can reflect on.)*

**Example.** In four group projects, Priya shared her idea first and rarely asked for others' ideas. She also encouraged teammates when they felt stuck. She names encouragement as a strength and asking for ideas as something to practise. Her goal is: 'At our next meeting, I will ask two people for their ideas before I share mine.'

Useful reflection names a strength and something you want to practise. A useful goal names an action you can choose and check later, such as waiting for a speaker to finish before replying. Repeatedly keeping disagreements to yourself to avoid an argument can be called avoiding confrontation. Being quiet alone does not tell us why someone is quiet.

*(drawing: After the next conversation, check whether you tried your chosen action.)*

You are responsible for your own actions, not someone else's unkind choices. If a friend insults you and you snap back, you can consider a different response while still asking them to stop. Use the clear, respectful words you have practised. If someone keeps hurting or excluding you, or you feel unsafe, ask a trusted adult for help. You do not have to solve it alone.

**Recap.** Notice repeated actions, name a strength, and choose one action to practise. Reflect on your part without taking responsibility for someone else's unkind choices.

*This lesson, its questions and flashcards were written for this dataset.*

## Practice

8 questions on this page, each with its working shown.

## Needs first

- [Assertive Communication](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/assertive-communication-mt_rqLMfiw61L)

## Optional connections

- [Giving and Receiving Feedback](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/giving-and-receiving-feedback-mt_33zncDHC3N)
- [Patterns in Your Own Reactions](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/patterns-in-your-own-reactions-mt_H8dEMH_wik)
- [Your Impact on Others](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/your-impact-on-others-mt_rpug2tkYhb)

## Opens up

- [Social Cues and Group Dynamics](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/social-cues-and-group-dynamics-mt_nqM2OW0Qlm)