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Talking It Out and Making It Right

Personal & Social Development · Friendship & Cooperation · ages 12-13
Name ______________________   Date ____________
  1. Which sentence describes a problem without attacking the friend's character?

    • You're selfish whenever you cancel, and I shouldn't have to explain why you need to change how you treat me.
    • When you canceled without telling me, I felt hurt. Could you let me know when plans change?
    • You always ruin our plans, and if you cared about this friendship you would already know what you did to upset me.
  2. Which four parts form the conversation guide taught in this lesson?

    • Observation, feeling, need, request
    • Judgment, accusation, punishment, threat
    • Assumption, justification, silence, revenge
  3. Saying 'sorry' only to end an awkward moment, without taking responsibility, can leave the harm unaddressed.

    Circle one:   True   False

  4. After sharing a rumor about a friend, which response takes responsibility without shifting blame?

    • I shared it, but everyone else was talking about it first, so they should be the ones who explain themselves to you.
    • I already said sorry, and if you keep bringing it up, I will stop listening because this is getting awkward.
    • I chose to share the rumor. I understand that it hurt your trust, and I take responsibility for sharing it.
  5. Priya says, 'When you didn't reply for two days, I felt anxious. I need reassurance about our friendship. Could you reply when you have time?' Which part states the need?

    • I felt anxious
    • I need reassurance about our friendship
    • Could you reply when you have time?
  6. Trust after a serious conflict always comes back immediately when someone apologizes.

    Circle one:   True   False

  7. After a serious argument, a friend hears your apology but asks for space. Which response respects that boundary while supporting repair?

    • Keep sending apologies until the friend answers, because repeated messages prove a commitment to rebuilding trust.
    • Ask other friends to persuade them to meet, because a sincere apology means they should restart the friendship now.
    • Respect the request for space and follow through on the promised change without demanding contact.
  8. Jordan says, 'I'm sorry you felt embarrassed, but you shouldn't have taken it that way.' Why does this fail to take responsibility?

    • It blames the friend's reaction instead of taking responsibility for Jordan's action.
    • It is too short; an apology can only be genuine if it takes several minutes to say out loud.
    • It leaves out the word 'need'; every apology must include all four conversation labels to be genuine.
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Answer key

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  1. When you canceled without telling me, I felt hurt. Could you let me know when plans change? · The sentence about canceling names an event and a feeling, then asks for an action. It does not label the friend's character.
  2. Observation, feeling, need, request · The guide names what happened, how you felt, what matters to you and a specific action you ask for.
  3. True · Ending discomfort does not address the action or its impact. Taking responsibility and following through can support repair.
  4. I chose to share the rumor. I understand that it hurt your trust, and I take responsibility for sharing it. · Owning the choice to share the rumor takes responsibility. Blaming others or refusing to listen avoids the action and its impact.
  5. I need reassurance about our friendship · Reassurance about the friendship is what matters to Priya. Anxiety is her feeling; asking for a reply is her request.
  6. False · An apology does not guarantee immediate trust. Changed actions over time can help, but trust may not return.
  7. Respect the request for space and follow through on the promised change without demanding contact. · Repair includes respecting the friend's choice. Following through does not entitle you to contact, forgiveness or a renewed friendship.
  8. It blames the friend's reaction instead of taking responsibility for Jordan's action. · Jordan tells the friend to react differently instead of naming and owning the action that caused embarrassment.
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