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title: "Your Impact on Others"
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# Your Impact on Others

Reflect on how your behaviour lands on others — consider not just what you intended but what the actual impact was on the other person

Subject: Personal & Social Development · Area: Self-Awareness · Ages 8 to 9
Page: https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/your-impact-on-others-mt_rpug2tkYhb

## Ready when they can

- Describe how something they said or did affected someone else — e.g. 'When I didn't include them, they looked upset'
- Predict what might happen before acting — e.g. 'If I take the last one without asking, they'll feel it's unfair'
- After a conflict, explain what they could have done differently and what effect that would have had

## Lesson: What You Meant vs. What They Felt

You always know what you meant to do. But the other person only sees what actually happened. That gap is called impact. Even when you don't mean to hurt someone, your words or actions can still land in a way that stings.

**Example.** Zara took the last orange slice without asking. She wasn't trying to be selfish, she was just hungry. But her friend Dev had been saving room for it. Dev felt like his feelings didn't matter, even though that was never Zara's plan.

*(drawing: Zara only meant to grab a snack. What landed on Dev was the feeling of being forgotten. The last box is the impact.)*

**Tip.** Before you act, picture the other person for a second. Ask yourself, 'How might this feel to them?' A quick guess can help you avoid a mix-up later.

**Example.** Milo left a classmate out of a game at recess. He didn't think about it much, he just wanted to play with his usual friends. Later he noticed the classmate sitting alone, looking down. Milo's intention wasn't to hurt anyone, but the impact was that his classmate felt forgotten.

After a mix-up, ask yourself two questions: what could I have done differently, and how would that have changed how the other person felt? Looking back this way helps you do better next time, without dwelling on blame.

**Recap.** What you meant matters less than what the other person actually felt, so pause to think about their side before and after you act.

## Practice

8 questions on this page, each with its working shown.

## Needs first

- [Teaching It Back](https://lightmysky.com/learn/learning-to-learn/teaching-it-back-mt_6eTZUwKQZr)
- [Patterns in Your Own Reactions](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/patterns-in-your-own-reactions-mt_H8dEMH_wik)
- [Feelings Versus Actions](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/feelings-versus-actions-mt_TU3BcLOgiV)

## Opens up

- [Questioning First Impressions](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/questioning-first-impressions-mt_Mb1JUJmnbX)
- [Self-Reflection in Relationships](https://lightmysky.com/learn/personal-and-social-development/self-reflection-in-relationships-mt_z98J_Zg2L3)