Checking consent and respecting no

Personal & Social Development · Responsible Decision-Making · ages 15-16

Name ______________________ Date ____________

A friend says, "Say yes now. I will not give you time to think or ask questions." Which pressure tactic is clearest?
- Urgency: rushing someone into an answer.
- Privacy: deciding out of public view.
- Patience: allowing time for questions before answering.
Which set names four conditions to check for personal consent?
- Freely given, informed, specific and permanent
- Freely given, informed, specific and current
- Freely given, private, general and current
A yes obtained through threats counts as freely given consent.
Circle one: True False
During a game, someone who agreed earlier goes quiet and seems unsure. What should you do before continuing?
- Continue unless they object.
- Pause and ask whether they still want to take part.
- Let their friends answer for them.
A team captain says, "Show me your private messages or I will remove you from the team. Do not tell anyone I threatened you." Which two tactics are explicit?
- Urgency and guilt.
- Secrecy and guilt.
- Seniority and secrecy.
You are invited to an activity but are not told what it involves. What would help you make an informed choice?
- Ask what the activity involves before deciding whether to join.
- Agree because your friends know the plan and say that they enjoyed it before.
- Let the organiser decide for you because they already know what will happen.
Someone refuses to share a photo. A friend replies, "Change your answer or I will exclude you from our group." What can you conclude from this reply?
- It proves all earlier yeses were pressured, whatever the circumstances.
- It threatens a cost for refusing and puts pressure on the person now.
- It respects the refusal because the threat has not been carried out yet.
Jay says, "A yes to one activity lets me start other activities with that person and ignore a later stop." Which correction addresses both errors?
- A recent yes covers any activity.
- A yes covers one activity, but stopping must wait until it ends.
- A yes covers the agreed activity only and can be withdrawn.

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Urgency: rushing someone into an answer. · The friend demands an immediate answer and refuses thinking time. That is pressure through urgency, not merely a real deadline.
Freely given, informed, specific and current · Check that consent is freely given, informed, specific and current. It can be withdrawn; privacy does not replace being informed.
False · Freely given means choosing without threats or pressure. A yes obtained through threats does not meet that condition.
Pause and ask whether they still want to take part. · Quiet does not tell you their decision. Pause, check with them and do not continue without clear, freely given consent.
Seniority and secrecy. · The captain uses their rank to threaten a team place and demands secrecy about the threat. Both tactics are explicit.
Ask what the activity involves before deciding whether to join. · Informed means knowing what you are agreeing to. Ask about the activity before choosing; someone else's knowledge does not replace yours.
It threatens a cost for refusing and puts pressure on the person now. · The threat pressures the person now, even before it is carried out. It does not establish the circumstances of every earlier yes.
A yes covers the agreed activity only and can be withdrawn. · Specific consent covers the agreed activity, not other activities. Current consent can be withdrawn, so a later stop must be respected.