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Disagree without losing the person

Personal & Social Development · Empathy & Social Awareness · ages 16-18
Name ______________________   Date ____________

  1. Which move turns a discussion away from the claim and toward a personal attack?

    • Asking which evidence supports the claim being discussed
    • Mocking someone's motives instead of discussing the claim
    • Explaining how the proposed policy could affect the group

  2. Before responding to someone's view in a safe discussion, what helps you understand it fairly?

    • Restate their view in your own words and invite corrections
    • Prepare your reply while they speak and skip any qualifying details
    • Assume their position from one phrase and answer without checking

  3. You must keep discussing a disagreement even when the other person threatens you.

    Circle one:   True   False

  4. Two people disagree about a factual claim. Which move helps them test their reasons?

    • Ask what evidence would change each view, and state your own test
    • List unrelated past mistakes until the other person gives up the discussion
    • Repeat a slogan more often without checking whether its claim is supported

  5. Jo confirms that your summary is accurate but remains upset and disagrees. Which conclusion is supported?

    • Jo's reaction proves the summary was inaccurate, even though Jo accepted it
    • An accurate summary can help, but does not promise calm or agreement
    • The summary means Jo now agrees, even though Jo says the disagreement remains

  6. After mocking a friend in front of a group, which statement takes responsibility and offers a repair?

    • I'm sorry if my joke upset you. Everyone was laughing, so I think we should forget it.
    • I'm sorry you disliked my joke. I was tired, so I need you to stop being upset with me.
    • I'm sorry I mocked you. That was hurtful. I'll tell the group I should not have said it.

  7. Priya claimed the club had never asked members about meeting times. A dated survey and its responses show that it did. What should she do?

    • Keep saying no survey happened so the group will not notice her claim has changed
    • Acknowledge the survey, thank the person, and revise her claim
    • Change the subject before anyone can discuss what the survey shows about her claim

  8. Ana says, 'Try phone-free lunches for one week, then ask students what they think.' Ken replies, 'You want to ban phones at school forever.' What should Ken correct?

    • His summary: Ana proposed a short trial, not a permanent school-wide ban
    • Ana's motives: a short trial proves she secretly wants a permanent school-wide ban
    • The topic: asking students what they think means Ana has already changed her mind
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  1. Mocking someone's motives instead of discussing the claim · Mocking motives attacks the person. Asking for evidence and discussing a policy's effects address the claim itself.
  2. Restate their view in your own words and invite corrections · Restating the view and inviting corrections checks your understanding. It helps you respond to what the person said. Their agreement is not a condition for speaking.
  3. False · You may end a threatening discussion. Leave when you can do so safely and seek support; respectful disagreement does not require staying in danger.
  4. Ask what evidence would change each view, and state your own test · Naming relevant evidence gives both people a way to check the factual claim. Unrelated faults and repeated slogans do not test it.
  5. An accurate summary can help, but does not promise calm or agreement · An accurate summary checks understanding. It does not control Jo's feelings or mean that either person has changed their position.
  6. I'm sorry I mocked you. That was hurtful. I'll tell the group I should not have said it. · The statement names the mocking, acknowledges harm, apologises and offers a public correction. The others excuse the action or pressure the friend.
  7. Acknowledge the survey, thank the person, and revise her claim · The survey contradicts Priya's claim that members were never asked. She can acknowledge that specific correction without treating it as a judgment of her worth.
  8. His summary: Ana proposed a short trial, not a permanent school-wide ban · Ken changed a one-week lunch trial into a permanent school-wide ban. He should restore Ana's stated limits before responding.
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