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Understanding emotional intelligence

Personal & Social Development · Emotional Literacy · ages 13-14
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  1. What does 'self-regulation' mean in the emotional intelligence model?

    • Ignoring your feelings completely
    • Managing how you react to a feeling
    • Making other people feel what you feel

  2. Which of these is NOT one of Goleman's five parts of emotional intelligence?

    • Intelligence quotient (IQ)
    • Self-awareness of your feelings
    • Empathy for other people's feelings

  3. Empathy involves trying to understand what someone else might be feeling.

    Circle one:   True   False

  4. Priya feels a strange mix of happy and sad while watching old family videos, wishing she could go back to being a little kid. What is this feeling called?

    • Nostalgia
    • Schadenfreude
    • Cognitive dissonance

  5. Before a presentation, Amir notices shaky hands and a tight stomach and thinks, 'I'm nervous.' Which part of emotional intelligence is shown by noticing and naming his own feeling?

    • Social skills for building relationships
    • Motivation for working toward a goal
    • Self-awareness of his nervousness

  6. Diego believes exercise matters for his health, but he skips it every day. The uncomfortable tension between his belief and his behavior is called what?

    • Awe
    • Cognitive dissonance
    • Ambivalence

  7. Since starting eighth grade, Ren has felt overwhelmed by sadness almost every day for two months, and naming the feeling or pausing before reacting hasn't helped. What is the most appropriate next step?

    • Talk to a school counselor or trusted adult
    • Keep trying self-regulation strategies alone until it passes
    • Avoid thinking about the feeling

  8. Malik says, 'Emotional intelligence means never feeling angry or upset.' What is wrong with this statement?

    • Emotional intelligence only applies to positive emotions
    • Malik is right; feeling upset means low emotional intelligence
    • Emotional intelligence is about managing emotions, not eliminating them
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  1. Managing how you react to a feeling · Self-regulation is about managing your reaction, not shutting the feeling off or forcing it onto someone else.
  2. Intelligence quotient (IQ) · Self-awareness and empathy are on the five-part list taught here. Intelligence quotient, or IQ, is not one of those five parts.
  3. True · This matches the lesson's empathy definition. Understanding another person's feelings involves checking rather than assuming.
  4. Nostalgia · That bittersweet longing for the past is nostalgia.
  5. Self-awareness of his nervousness · Noticing and naming his own feeling shows self-awareness. Other skills could also operate during a presentation, but they are not the action being identified.
  6. Cognitive dissonance · The tension between a belief and a contradicting action is cognitive dissonance.
  7. Talk to a school counselor or trusted adult · Ren's persistent sadness and difficulty managing it alone support talking to a counselor or trusted adult. Helpful personal strategies may continue alongside that support.
  8. Emotional intelligence is about managing emotions, not eliminating them · Being emotionally intelligent doesn't mean feeling only calm, pleasant emotions. It means noticing, understanding, and managing all emotions, including anger and upset.
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