Self-Reflection in Relationships · seed 1 · A4, ink-friendly. The answer key prints on its own page for grown-ups.

Your Part in the Friendship

Personal & Social Development · Friendship & Cooperation · ages 9-11
Name ______________________   Date ____________

  1. Reflecting on a friendship means only thinking about what your friend did wrong.

    Circle one:   True   False

  2. Which of these is an example of noticing your own pattern in a friendship?

    • Realizing you always want to pick the game
    • Complaining that a friend picked the game
    • Ignoring how the game turned out

  3. A useful social goal should be...

    • Something you wish your friend would do
    • Something specific you will do
    • A general wish to 'be nicer'

  4. Which sentence shows someone reflecting well on their role in a friendship?

    • 'I'm good at listening, but I want to speak up more when I disagree.'
    • 'My friend always starts the arguments.'
    • 'I don't need to think about this, I'm a good friend.'

  5. Priya notices she always shares her idea first in group work and rarely asks others. What is this an example of?

    • A mistake only her group made
    • Something she can't change
    • A pattern in her own behavior

  6. Jake notices he interrupts others and wants to set a goal. Which goal is most specific?

    • 'I will try to be a better listener.'
    • 'I will let one person finish talking before I speak.'
    • 'I will stop talking to people.'

  7. Ravi says, 'I reflected on my friendship: my friend needs to change three things about how they act.' What's missing from Ravi's reflection?

    • He didn't look at anything he does himself
    • He used too many words
    • He left his friend out of it completely

  8. Mia always stays quiet when she disagrees with her friends, even when it bothers her. What pattern is this?

    • Wanting to lead every time
    • Sharing ideas too often
    • Avoiding confrontation
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Answer key

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  1. False · Reflecting includes looking at your own actions, not just your friend's.
  2. Realizing you always want to pick the game · Noticing something you do again and again is a pattern in your own behavior.
  3. Something specific you will do · A useful goal names an exact action, like asking others for ideas first.
  4. 'I'm good at listening, but I want to speak up more when I disagree.' · This names something the speaker does well and one thing to improve, that's honest self-reflection.
  5. A pattern in her own behavior · Priya spotted something she repeats often, that's a pattern.
  6. 'I will let one person finish talking before I speak.' · The first goal names an exact action Jake can check, so it's specific.
  7. He didn't look at anything he does himself · True reflection looks at your own part too, not only at what a friend should change.
  8. Avoiding confrontation · Staying quiet about disagreement again and again is a pattern of avoiding confrontation.
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