Hidden and Masked Feelings
Recognise that people may show something different from what they feel, consider why they might hide a feeling, and learn that outward clues do not prove another person's feelings
What a learner can do afterwards
- Give an example of someone hiding a feeling and a possible reason
- Notice differences between words and body-language clues without claiming certainty about someone's feelings
- Describe a gentle check-in that respects privacy and identify a trusted adult to tell if someone is hurt or unsafe
1 · Read
Sometimes people show something different from what they feel. Smiling while feeling sad can be called hiding or masking a feeling. A smile alone does not prove happiness.
Someone might hide a feeling because they feel embarrassed, want privacy or do not want others to worry. Hiding does not prove the feeling has gone away. Feelings can still change.
Zara falls off her bike. She smiles and says, 'I'm okay,' but her hands shake. Her friend asks whether she is hurt and offers to get a grown-up. The friend does not guess her feeling.
Words, faces and voices can give clues, but a clue is not proof. Looking away can have many reasons. Quietness does not always mean sadness. Someone who laughs now and is quiet later may have changing feelings. That difference alone does not prove they are hiding a feeling.
Offer once and listen. If someone does not want to talk, respect that choice. They can speak to a trusted grown-up when ready. You can share your feelings with someone you trust too. Sharing can help you get support, but it does not promise the feeling will stop. If someone is hurt or unsafe, tell a trusted grown-up, such as a teacher you trust.
Outward clues do not prove a feeling. Ask gently, respect privacy, and tell a trusted grown-up if someone is hurt or unsafe.
This lesson, quiz and flashcards were written for this dataset about hidden feelings, respecting privacy and seeking trusted adult help when someone is hurt or unsafe.
These three original readings were written for this dataset about outward clues, privacy and seeking support.
More to read
A smile is one clue
A smile can go with happiness, nervousness or another feeling. You cannot know which feeling from a smile alone. A person may also feel several things at once. If you want to offer support, ask gently whether they would like to talk. Listen to their answer instead of choosing a feeling for them.
Choosing what to share
Sometimes 'I'm fine' means a person feels fine. Sometimes they do not want to talk about a feeling yet. You cannot tell which from those words alone. For your own feelings, you may say, 'I feel sad,' or 'I would rather talk later.' If you need help, choose a trusted grown-up.
Support after unkind words
Rowan laughed when another child teased them. Later Rowan told a teacher, 'Those words hurt my feelings. I laughed because I did not want the other children to notice.' Now the teacher knows what Rowan chose to share. Telling a trusted grown-up can help someone get support. It does not promise that hurt feelings will stop at once.
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