Bystanders and Upstanders
Understand the bystander role, that when someone witnesses unkind or unfair behaviour, they have a choice: they can be a passive bystander (doing nothing), join in, or be an upstander (speaking up or getting help), and develop the confidence to be an upstander
What a learner can do afterwards
- Explain the difference between a bystander and an upstander
- Describe at least two safe actions an upstander can take
- Give an example of a time they or someone they know stood up for someone else
1 · Read
When you see someone being treated in an unkind or unfair way, you always have a choice. You can join in. You can watch and say nothing, which makes you a bystander. Staying silent can let the unkindness carry on. Or you can help, which makes you an upstander. Telling a trusted adult helps, because an adult can step in and stop what is unsafe.
At lunch, kids start laughing at what Priya is eating. Deng could laugh too. He could stay quiet. Instead, he says, 'That is not cool,' and asks Priya to sit with him. Deng chose to be an upstander.
You do not need to be the boldest to be an upstander. Safe upstander actions include saying a calm line like 'That is not okay,' walking away together with the person being targeted, or telling a teacher or another trusted adult what you saw.
You do not have to fix everything by yourself. Getting an adult's help is still being an upstander. It is one of the safest moves you can make.
When something unkind happens, you can join in, stay silent as a bystander, or step up as an upstander, and even a small safe action counts.
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Helping when you see bullying
A person who sees bullying is a bystander. Someone who helps safely is an upstander. Bullying may stop when other people show they will not support it. Helping does not mean being bigger or shouting louder. A quiet, safe choice can help too. Kind support can make school safer.
Choose a safe way to help
Your safety comes first. If it is safe, stand beside the person being bullied or calmly say the behaviour is not OK. You could distract people, then leave together to get help. Never hit, push or threaten anyone. Those actions can put you in danger and make the bullying worse. Ask a teacher or another adult you trust to help.
Do not join in
Laughing at bullying or sharing hurtful posts can encourage it. A silent crowd may encourage it too. Refusing to join in can help. Do not laugh. You can say it is not funny, comfort the person afterwards and tell an adult what happened. Reporting bullying helps protect someone. It is not telling tales. Adults at school need to hear about it.
Invite someone to join you
Picture a new child being teased while a crowd watches. If it is safe, another child could stand beside them and invite them to play. They could leave together and tell a teacher what happened. This shows how kindness and quick thinking can help without a fight. Can you remember someone helping this way? What helped their plan work?
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