Feelings Versus Actions
Tell a feeling from an action. Practise a pause when safe, ask for help while upset, and seek help right away in danger.
What a learner can do afterwards
- Tell a named feeling from an action in a short example.
- Describe a pause to try when safe and explain that more time or help may be needed.
- Recognize that help can be requested while upset and should be sought right away in danger.
1 · Read
You have used feeling words before. Angry, scared and jealous name feelings. Jealous can mean wanting something someone else has. An action is something you do, like asking or grabbing. A feeling does not make you bad or force one action. Some actions happen before you think. An action alone cannot tell you whether someone paused or stopped feeling upset.
Nina feels angry when her sister changes the channel. She takes a breath, then asks for a turn. Nina still feels angry. When safe, a pause can give you time to think. Try a slow breath or count to five. You may need more time or help.
A pause may not be enough. You can ask a grown-up you trust for help while still upset. If the dark feels scary, ask for help or a light. You do not have to hide the feeling or solve the problem alone.
If someone is hurting you or you are in danger, get away if you can and call for help right away. You can call even if you cannot get away. You do not need to count or feel calm first.
Feelings and actions are different. Practise a pause when safe. Ask for help while upset, and call for help right away in danger.
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Wanting a turn
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Upset about a missing toy
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Getting help right away
You can say that you want a game to stop. If someone is hurting you, call for help right away and move away if you can. You can use a loud voice to get help. If you cannot move away, you can still call. There is no need to count first or hide how upset you feel.
A feeling and a repair
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