Peer Pressure and Resisting It
Recognise pressure from friends or other people their age to join in. Practise safe ways to refuse unsafe, unkind or unwanted actions, including leaving safely and asking a trusted adult for help.
What a learner can do afterwards
- Define peer pressure in their own words and give a real-world example
- Describe at least two strategies for resisting peer pressure, such as walking away or using humour
- Explain how joining unsafe or unkind behaviour to fit in can cause harm or damage trust, and why giving in does not guarantee that pressure will stop
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Peer pressure is influence from friends or other people your age that makes you feel pushed to join in. It can be spoken, such as teasing or saying, 'Everyone does it.' It can also be quiet: you may feel you must copy the group even when nobody asks. An invitation that accepts your answer without pushing is different from pressure.
You can say, 'No thanks,' and keep doing your own task. Other choices include leaving safely, suggesting a safer activity, using a light joke that does not target anyone, or mentioning a real rule you follow. You do not owe a long explanation. If people keep pushing or you cannot leave safely, ask a trusted adult for help. You can call to a nearby adult.
Jordan's friends dare him to take a candy bar without paying. His stomach feels tight. That feeling is a reason to pause, but it does not prove that a choice is harmful. Jordan checks the action: taking the candy without paying would be stealing. A clear path leads to his caregiver nearby. He leaves the candy and walks to the caregiver.
Joining unsafe or unkind behaviour to fit in can hurt someone, break rules or damage trust. A spoken rumour can hurt someone even if it is never written down. Doing one dare does not guarantee that others will stop asking. You can change your mind and say no later. People applying pressure are responsible for their actions. If they keep pushing, ask a trusted adult for support.
You can say no, leave safely and ask for help. You do not have to do something unsafe or unkind to prove you belong.
The readings "Practise a refusal" and "Support from a friend" were written for this dataset.
More to read
Practise a refusal
Before a difficult moment, you can practise words you might use. Choose a short sentence such as, 'No, I don't want to do that.' Say it with someone you trust. You can also plan where to go for help.
Imagine a group asks you to hide another child's schoolbag. You could refuse and suggest a game that includes everyone. If the group keeps pushing, you can leave safely and tell a trusted adult what happened.
A plan gives you choices to try. It does not make you responsible for stopping other people's behaviour. If you freeze or agree at first, you can still ask for help and change your mind.
Support from a friend
You and a friend can enjoy the same games without agreeing to every plan. Suppose your friend suggests copying a risky stunt from a video. You can say you do not want to copy it and suggest another activity.
A friend can also help you resist pressure from a group. You might ask them to leave with you or come with you to speak to a trusted adult. You can offer that support when they need it too.
Notice whether people accept your answer. Teasing you or threatening to leave you out to make you agree is pressure. Talk with a trusted adult if this keeps happening. You do not have to manage it alone.
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